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We are so excited to learn that our annual fund raise, Freezin For A Reason, Lake Winnebago Wizzards is not only on again but this year it is tax deductable! Thanks to the many people who worked so hard and thanks to the Lake Winnebago Lions Club. The Lions club is a 501(c)(3) organization. You can send a check payable to Lake Winnebago Lions Club Foundation with "Freezin For A Reason" in the memo. This year you can also donate online at

For a wonderful day filled with skiing in frigid temperatures, music, food, auction and simply a joyous time together, please join us at the Arrowhead Yacht Club at Lake Winnebago, Mo, On New Year's Day, 2015. If you have any questions, please call us Christoher and Vickie Cox at 816-694-1040.  No matter the weather!


 This annual event has helped our family in so many ways, that it's hard to put into words. The number one thing that we as a family can always say no matter how much is raised, is the outpouring of love that we feel year round from this warm event from what is in our hearts as our home. It is the place we have the fondest memories of family life and normalcy that can be felt. It gives us something to hold onto all year long and even though we aren't all always able to attend, those of us who are left behind, feel it the same way as those who go. We thrive from this event. It is why our family still longs to belong back home and while we pray that oneday that happens, we are honored that they continue to help us.

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 It is so rare to have three kids with SDS or any inheriated bone marrow failure disease. It is a one in four chance. We took Jake to all kinds of doctors for stomach trouble when he was young and even Mayo where we were assured that our daughter had a non geneitic disease and misdiagnosed her with Autoimmune Neuotropenia. We would only learn that Jake, our oldest had this after we had our third child, Samuel. He was neutropenic but not as severe as Grace. We later would learn that they have chemotaxis issues (meaning the the white cells, most of which, 80% of our white cell, fighting infection cells don't function so when Jake's neutophil counts came back as lowe to normal, they were not working.) We are grateful for all three of our children but even had we known about the potential disease, it is very rare to have three altuough we are no longer alone as we know of two other families with three. Many that have only two children, have this disease but for the most part, there is only one child effected. On top of that, it is very rare to have all three be in any kind of marrow failure. Since only essitmates of 30 to 70 % of kids with this, will develop Acute Myloid Luekemia or Aplastic amemia or Myodyplastic syndrome and even some solid tumor cancers occur. All three of our kids are in mild to severe bone marrow failure. Jake is in a very dangerous place but without finding out why his stomach and intestines aren't abosrbing food without a feeding tube, the chances of being eligiable for a transplant is rough or to survive it. So we are working hard to get care for his stomach so we can be ready for a bone marrow transplant. Grace has only one kidney and was found to have two cervics and uteruses after years of being to the top hospitals in the nation, including St. Judes which doesn't deal in such rare diseases, only in certain types of rare cancers. It's a wonderful place for those it serves. We have been to Seattle, Salt Lake, Duke, Cincinnati Children's to name a few and we are trying to get them into the only place that treats both children and adults which is Phildelphia Childrens Hospital in PA. as their is a doctor there who came from St., Louis which we have also been to who we have known and tried to get her to take intrest in our children but thus far, she has been unwilling. We recently went to Minnesota Childrens after a few familes we know who are in the same boat and find that getting care for the many issues these children endure from GI, Pancreatic insuffiency, female and organ, skin birth abnormailities which sadly can touch any or all organs in the body including all three of our kids immune system, is so touch to get care for them now in other areas besides Bone marrow failure doctors in adult care and childrens care. This has been so frustrating and on top of their issues, my own health from having C-Diff illness that resulting in my poor health and even though Jake and I both had fecal transplants in NY, we have long term damage which resulted in his GTUbe and my immune system has taken a hit either from something I had and did not know or exposure to so many very bad life-threatning illnesses that I as the primary caregiver was exposed too. 


 We have witnessed so many miracles as our kids fought off deadly diseases and viruses and saw them live when they should have died. We have been blessed by other giving and help that comes our way and are amazed at the outpouring of love and compassion that others display. This has been a very difficult time for us as my health put's our entire family on a hold that as the leading advocate, caregiver, teacher and dealing with insurance companies as well as reseacrh and being activerly involved in comferences and camps is crutical to learning and advocating for our kids. As a mother, it has been heartbreaking to have to withdrawl from so many accpects of a normal life even for a sick child. I feel responsible for their lives and no one person can handle such a load. Stress, is an ever present part of our family but we used to have more of everything which helped us to lead as close of a normal life as we could. This has been discouraging to all of us but for my hsband who shoulders  the netire families well being by staying employeed and having good insurance while dealing with all of these issues is more than two full time jobs, we know he has always done his best to provide but no one is perfect and things happen putting us in even greater dispear. We are wanting to come home but we left knowing their wasn't care for our children there. Yet, the outpouring of friends and family is so great that we are praying that God can show us where He wants us and our hope is that we could either etablish care in P.A. and live there or move home and pray that my health improves so that we could travel when nessasary for our kids but have the life we all long for again. It's an alomost impossiblity until our finicial situation improves to move our famiy so that we could be together, which depending on one another and Chris for so much has shown to be the greatest need right now. We are currently seeking a solution for that very thing. 


















Updates: Our family has been to hospitals and will be receiving more care which means travel and expenses and time away from home. We really don't know where or how we will meet all the bills and co-pays which are extremly high. To see a specialist, which is about all they see, is $70.00 times three, we may see up to four in one day. That adds up fast. Then the medications on top of that, the co-pays on some are $64.00 per Rx, some less. Sadly, my bout with C-Diff and exposure to the kids that I have been exposed to has caused my own health issues. I am so thankful that we found the doctor in New york who curred Jake and I of this awful disease. Being down for three years, causing my back issues to worsen and a positive titer on Lupus isn't too unusual as I the primary cargiver, to develop some heath issues.   




He has been sick far too long. Yet, he knows the Lord and he is half way there. he still needs help as no one could go through a long term bed ridden experience and come out to find that his marrow is failing and if we don't get him to the places that are willing to help us with all three,isn't easy for anyone, much less a nineteen year old.  Samuel's marrow was also bad. He has diarreha everyday and also has some of the Bone Marrow Failure disease that has caused us to except that autism and learning disbalities are there and pursue the suggested help. 




Our desire is to come home to family, friends, our church and lake Winnebago where we have lifetime friends and new friends. I strong support group. this was an offer made by our church to help us but it meant no health insurance and we get the help I need. simply cannot abandon that. If Chris finds a job with life insurance we will be home.  


Samuel mrrow was a shock to us and all we can hope for is the sample may have been bad, though it was reported good. He is bored and without money, you can't do much to have fun. Gas to go anywhere costs, food costs, eating out costs and we simply do not have it. My pareyer is my health will improve and I can attend school and work to help my family. This will not happen until my heath is solved but I plan to work sick or not. I have to try. 


The fact that people believe that there is all this help from the government or state has not proven to be correct. The help we had has been cut and we expect further cuts. 


We do fear returning home will cost more in travel expences and we have been told that its time to give up and just allow Jake to die because we don't have the money to help him. This is hard for I KNOW that Jake has a gift and there is help. We have several doctors who are looking into his case and our other two. They do not thing SDS is the disease but it is clear, they have more than just Inheriated Bone Marrow disease and need to explore their immune system. They recieve IGG infusions weekly and we are thankful their is a medication that help our children FEEL better but the cost is high. The neupogen injections were cut back due to cost and so the three must share. Their neutophils don't work as they have Chemotaxis, meaning the whilte blood cells that destroy life- threating bacteria makes them open for everything. 

 We are thankful everyday that we have made it. There was a time, we could have fun and enjoyed life. We are working on that but it is nearly impossible for us to do. Please pray that for my husband because this man has taken for too many hits when he reached out for spiritual guidence.  Yet, we plan to hold close to Christ and no, He sees the heart of everyone and their intentions. We have enough to deal with just ihn the illness and my husband is my soul mate, one in Christ and we will be fine but not without the help and prayer of others.






We have always put our faith in God but we made a huge mistake, he put them in ours hands and we know places to go but we have to choose wisley. Sorry I will erase and update soon but I am wiped out. God Bless you all and we love you all.

I have seen things and realise who the people in our lives really are and who deeply cares. It is hard to explain how awful it is to have your child come to you with awful pain all over. His hands and feet tingling and ice cold. His stomach in knots, Constant nasua and vomiting after forcing himself to eat. Watching your child suffer to the point of mental breakdown and it isn't nor has any of it been his control but all due to vital nutrients that we all take for granted. This family has been to the best and found that trying as hard as we can to keep of medications and chemicals and going natural as much as possible is the way God intended. Obvouisly, we can't cut out the IGG which is given through an IV or Sub Q and is all that was helping him. Then he became so thin that we couldn't even put the needles in as there isn't any fat and hard bumps remain that way now. We plan to start him on IVIG and get the treatments he needs. We need to find the right place for all three kids and we pray for a better finicial situation. the amount of money it takes to buy medication and probiotics and now all the shots of many vit. will only add to the long list. We thank Christ for those who help and have always helped.  God will bless them and we thank Him for giving us a glimer of hope to end Jake's ordeal. We may have to feed through the G-Tube and medications through a port. It breaks our hearts to know how sick he was and medications could not help. Through it all, considering the length, I know that our son is one of the strongest people and his will to survive surpasses all understanding if not for the fact that he belongs to Jesus.


                     6th Annual Freezin For A Reason, Winnebago Wizzards true heros's. Each year, our home town supports our family through a very frezzin way! They ski in frigid temps of the Midwest Missouri Temps. Many gather, friends, church, family and they work so hard, give of time, food, prayer, money and love. This year's was a tremendous blessing and we thank with all our hearts every person who reaches out to help our family. We are constantly blown away by the love we feel. You all are helping to save our family! How can we express in words alone, what we feel. How can we repay, we cannot. We can share with you our deep commitment to faith. We have seen what it can do. We can pray this, that each of you are blessed back by His love and please know, we are here for anyone and just because we may need, doesn't give us an excuse to only take. We are here to listen, to do anything we can and most of all to love. God knows the heart and therfore, we can't fool Him.  In the Bible their are two very different scripures: Dear Lake Winnebago and friends, these scriptures just came to me as I was reading oneday. I remember an older women years ago, who gave a lot to her at Lake Winnebago spaghetti dinner. She didn't really have it to give but she did and sent a letter telling me she wish it could be more and her prayers were with us. I feel the scripture below fits her well. It also holds true to even us, when we have been down, not helping another in need, doesn't excuse us. He expects all to give. It speads and soon others joined in from surrounding towns and news of old friends surfaced. The pure joy of helping begins to grow on some, other's always had it there. This is a story so deep and touching that we want others to hear of it. Most of all we thank God that He has allowed such blessings upon us. Our road is long and we face bills and illnesses we do not know how to battle but we know we have a group of amazing people who are battling it with us. Thank You, seems so small but it's all we can offer for now.

 Luke  21:1] As he looked up, Jesus saw the rich putting their gifts into the temple treasury. [2] He also saw a poor widow put in two very small copper coins. [3] "I tell you the truth," he said, "this poor widow has put in more than all the others. [4] All these people gave their gifts out of their wealth; but she out of her poverty put in all she had to live on."

This scripture may fit some at Winnebago and friends, we do not know, we do know that God knows the heart of everyman and we know, that so many of you will be blessed when standing before Him.  No matter what you believe, your lives will be blessed. Please, if their are any prayers we can give for any of you, we really want to know. Thank all of you.

1 John 3:17 But if someone who is supposed to be a Christian has money enough to live well, and sees a brother in need, and won't help him--how can God's love be within him ? 1 John 3:18 Little children, let us stop just saying we love people; let us really love them, and show it by our actions. 1 John 3:19 Then we will know for sure, by our actions, that we are on God's side, and our consciences will be clear, even when we stand before the Lord.


Grace, Sam, Jake, Vickie and Chris at Camp Sunshine Maine

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Our needs are tremendous and we have been blessed in so many ways. Yet we still are in need of some unanswered prayers. We are working hard to find the answers and ask prayer for those to be revieled.


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Grace, Jake and Samuel